Child Psychology

I cant be sure what’s in the mind of my 3 year 4 month old daughter. I have started to work full day from office this month which means I have to leave her at her school for full day also. Morning , she will be attending school. And then, will be under daycare service till 6 pm. So far, she has been 4 days in the school. Tapi..start semalam she began …….
At 2:30, I received a phone call from the school cakap my daughter vomited the whole lunch that she has just eaten. Very panic, sbb she is asthmatic, it could be she has difficulty in breathing …The teacher keep on saying..”not need to worry, she is okay, I just want to alert you and to know whether she was okay before coming to school”....hmm..tell me, how not to worry..my daughter has asthma, vomit is just not a good sign..Thus, I rush to school……then I tengok she is okay, enjoying the storytime session. So, bawak lah dia balik…
But again, today at 3:00 pm, I received the same phone call from the school..my daughter muntah lagik..kenapa ye? I also dunno..she doesn’t like the food? Tapi tu semua macam makanan kegemaran dia..sup, nasi goreng,..hmm..or may be she is seeking attention..? Or, she expect I will come early if she vomits..like yesterday?
Huhuhu..but I still worried cuma rasanya hari ni, I will wait till 6 pm utk amik dia. Hopefully she will be okay…..separation is not easy..I cant concentrate on my work when I leave her under other people’s care. But, I need to work for $$$$ for our life also…dilemma sigh…

Patient

Kesabaran ada hadnya. But, how when you deal with your kids? I really really dont like shouting or yelling at my daughter. But, at times, memang menguji kesabaran when dealing with my daughter. I think it’s normal for parents to get angry or frustrated from time to time. Anyway, it’s my goal to the world’s most patient mommy. Haha.

Whenever my daughter throws tantrums or she did massive mess or anything yang sangat-sangat menguji kesabaran, I will follow these below steps ; (mix tips from zenhabits as well)

1. Take your deep breaths and count to 10. To delay your angry temperature to blow out. And at times, I will tell to my daughter “Ok, I count to 10, 1..2..3..). Then, my daughter will quickly stop.
2. Pretends that my mother in law is watching me. Ha ha. When I think that my mother in law is watching me, I will automatically not to overreact or shout to my daughter. It works well for me. :)
3. Think about how a good mother will react. I always think about how patience is my mother. I will automatically change my behavior to be more positive.
4. Think about my daughter is just 3 years old. She is still learning. Thus, I have to be a good guidance. Find new ways to teach her.
5. Take a break from the situation. Leave her for less than 10 minutes. Calm down myself, think back and organize my words and tackle the situation back.