Sayonara 2009

It's just toooo fast, today is the last day of 2009. Rasanya baru je start keje. Today, I see my system julian calendar as 109366. Huhu, it will change to 110001 tomorrow. Anyway, banyak sangat benda yang berlaku in 2009, January, start new job, February, my daughter was diagnosed ada congenital trigger thumb, was sooo busy in out hospital to confirm and to decide for the operation. Finally, in June, Cam went through operation successfully. The thumb can be used as per normal. Then, 2009 jugak busy ngan pindah rumah. hmm..but year end end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us, agree? Happy new year 2010.

Laughter is the best medicine

Every morning, my husband and I will try our best to have early coffee/breakfast together to start our day. Today, on our daily morning chat, my husband talked about healty living by laughter in our life. We are learning the philosophy of happy living..by living a stress free, happy and healthy. I remember, (once upon a time), I had 'conflict' with my mother in law during my pregnancy and it was prolong till about a year after the delivery. And, it was actually affected me a lot, and I went through such a long process of post natal blue. I was happy with the arrival of my new bundle of joy. But, my surroundings especially my mother in law made me soo deeply depressed. At one time I just cant see her face. I know, I was a bad daughter in law. And now, I regret it A LOT. Please dont do what I did. I win at no where, I lose at many where(s). And, the result were, the multi stress helped to damage my body and cause illness, not only to me but to my daughter as well. And,I admit I quarreled a lot with my husband also because of her. Alhamdulillah, somehow at one point, I slowly managed to accept and overcome all the situations (with the help from my husband of course). I learned to appreciate my mother in law more, I started to see things differently. I began to look at the positive aspects of her, and I started to accept or put aside the negative aspects. After all, I, myself is not a perfect human being. I learned to give her more, I learned to tolerate, I learned to love her and put more laughters to our life.

Let laugh to live!

Patient

Kesabaran ada hadnya. But, how when you deal with your kids? I really really dont like shouting or yelling at my daughter. But, at times, memang menguji kesabaran when dealing with my daughter. I think it’s normal for parents to get angry or frustrated from time to time. Anyway, it’s my goal to the world’s most patient mommy. Haha.

Whenever my daughter throws tantrums or she did massive mess or anything yang sangat-sangat menguji kesabaran, I will follow these below steps ; (mix tips from zenhabits as well)

1. Take your deep breaths and count to 10. To delay your angry temperature to blow out. And at times, I will tell to my daughter “Ok, I count to 10, 1..2..3..). Then, my daughter will quickly stop.
2. Pretends that my mother in law is watching me. Ha ha. When I think that my mother in law is watching me, I will automatically not to overreact or shout to my daughter. It works well for me. :)
3. Think about how a good mother will react. I always think about how patience is my mother. I will automatically change my behavior to be more positive.
4. Think about my daughter is just 3 years old. She is still learning. Thus, I have to be a good guidance. Find new ways to teach her.
5. Take a break from the situation. Leave her for less than 10 minutes. Calm down myself, think back and organize my words and tackle the situation back.

Kindergarten

I have just enrolled my daughter for a kindie 2010 intake. I admit the fact that searching for a kindie to suit our child is a tough job. There are so many choices out there. Small or Big, Expensive or Cheap, Good or Bad. Many many things to put into the list.

My only child will turn to 4 years old next year. I think it’s appropriate time to send her to kindergarten. My parents and parents in law said, it’s better to wait till she turns 5 years old kasik dia besar sikit. But, some how husband & me have decided to send her earlier. Why:-

-Because she is repeatedly using word “boring”
-Because she is the only child at home, obviously she is bored
-Because I cant afford to travel from and to shah alam-damansara everyday. Mengharung jam dekat kayu ara yang kadang2 boleh makan masa 1 jam.

I am now feel so relieved after the registration. I just hope she will be happy there.